Today we’re talking about consent, submission and living out your sexual fantasies, for better or worse.

To help me explore these topics, I’ve invited a special guest onto the show to share her personal story and insights.

Her name is Arden Leigh and she’s the creator of The Re-Patterning Project, the founder of Witch Haven, the frontwoman of indie rock band Arden & the Wolves, and the host of webseries Peace Talks.

In this episode we discuss:

• Arden’s introduction to the world of Kink and BDSM
• The other side of consent no one is talking about
• The myth of sexual freedom
• Why we need to examine our sexual fantasies
• How a lack of self-esteem and healthy boundaries is a magnetic for toxic relationships
• Ending past life contracts...and so much more.

Enjoy!

Today we’re exploring power dynamics: in particular, dominance and submission. We’re going beyond power dynamics in a sex scene, and exploring it as a model of relationship, an actual lifestyle.  

I’ve invited a special guest onto the show today to share her personal experience with living in a DS relationship: the good, the bad and the ugly.

Now, for the purpose of sharing as openly and honestly as possible, she has chosen to remain anonymous.

As you’ll hear, being in a DS relationship can be incredibly isolating, especially when things go wrong.

You’ll hear us talk about:

• Setting up and signing contracts
• Pain vs punishment
• Liberating sexual repression
• Mental illness and substance abuse
• Narcissism and egoic dominance
• Self-awareness and self-inquiry
• Understanding your childhood traumas/wounds and the disowned aspects of self
• Journaling prompts to access your truth
• Drawing the line and setting boundaries
• And so much more!

Enjoy!

During this episode, you’ll learn about Elena’s personal journey with Kink and she went from being starved + denied to being fed + free.

We also discuss:

• how to honour your Kinky partner while honouring your own boundaries
• how to effectively communicate your fears/judgments with a partner
• how to experiment with giving and receiving anal sex for maximum pleasure
• why strap-on sex for women can be both highly arousing and a total mind-fuck
• the most important thing to consider when buying sex toys, and
• Elena’s favourite sex toy brands

Today I’m speaking with best-selling author, speaker and Self-Love teacher, Gala Darling.

I’ve known Gala for several years but we’ve never spoken about her sex life until now.

I invited her to be part of the Kink series because, from the looks of her Instagram account, I suspected she might've been Kinky AF.

Turns out she is, however, she’s never labelled herself as being kinky...and you’ll learn why in today’s interview.

Gala and I also discuss:

• The origins of her Kinky turn ons
• The pain and frustration of being sexually unfulfilled in partnership
• How to feed your kinky ways without a partner
• The role consent plays in well-established relationships if you want to keep the spark alive
• Shapeshifting in a relationship - the good, the bad, and the ugly.
• Unconscious power struggles vs intentional power roles
• What you’ll find in Gala’s kinky closest
• The benefits of hiring a sex coach for in person sessions
• Plus: Lap dancing, floor work, strap-ons, sex with women, rope play, dress ups...and so much more.

Also, I should warn you, there’s a lot of explicit language in this episode. More than usual - so please listen at your own discretion.

Enjoy!

Today I’m joined by Justice Schanfarber, a certified Hakomi Therapist and couples counsellor specialising in sex and relationships. He’s the author of two books, and several articles - some which have been published by The Huffington Post and The Good Men Project - and read by over ten million people in two hundred countries, and has been translated into six languages.

In this interview we are discussing his book CONSCIOUS KINK FOR COUPLES: the beginners guide to using kinky sex and BDSM for pleasure, growth, intimacy, and healing.

You’ll learn:

• What inspired Justice wrote this book
• What Justice means by “conscious kinky couples”
• The importance of examining our sex lives and relationships
• How to use kink for shadow integration
• 3 lessons we can all learn from conscious kinky couples
• Ritual sex vs spontaneous sex vs maintenance sex
• 3 important things to consider when exploring S&M or D&S dynamics
• What Erotic humiliation entails
• how to navigate the psychological challenges of stepping into a D&S relationship
• How to tolerate the tension of having multiple, and sometimes contradictory, self-identities, desires, callings and parts.
• Justice’s highly recommended Kink & BDSM resources
• The value of making distinctions between sex, intimacy and eroticism

Enjoy!

Last week you heard from award-winning somatic sexologist, best selling author and founder of the Erotic Blueprints Miss Jaiya. And today I have the honour of introducing you all to her partner of 11 years, Ian Ferguson.

Now Ian doesn’t consider himself a KINK expert (let alone a sex expert) but when it comes to expanding his sexuality and embracing his kink, he definitely has some stories to tell and wisdom to share.

In this episode, you’ll learn how he moved past the shame of his kinky desires and in doing so, transformed his sex life.

Plus:

• The importance of having a partner who doesn’t shame or reject your sexual needs
• Why men struggle to embrace their desires to submit and how to help them
• What “sub-space” is and the intense play scene that allowed Ian to experience it
• The differences between kinks and fetishes
• The most important role of a Dominant
• How to avoid erotic starvation
• What Ian is currently exploring
• And so much more!

Enjoy!

Welcome back to Season 6 of the LOVE SEX DESIRE podcast! 

Are you ready {or at least curious} to explore the world of Kink - a world full of possibilities, creativity, expansion, freedom, healing, pleasure, and deep deep intimacy?

I hope so because for the next two months that's exactly where I'll be taking you this season.

In this episode, I interview award-winning somatic sexologist and bestselling author Miss Jaiya about all things Kink. You'll learn:

- what defines something or someone as kinky

- what the sexual needs, superpowers, and shadows are for Kinky Types

- how to open the kink conversation with a partner using "the sex communication list"

- what to do if old trauma resurfaces during your kink explorations

- the importance of boundaries, consent, and safety

- how kink saved Jaiya's marriage and, surprisingly healed one of her deepest wounds

A list of resources mentioned in this episode can be found at susanafrioni.com

Enjoy!

Tune in to find out when Season 6 begins and what this series will be focusing on. Can't wait!  I'll be back very soon! XO

Today’s special guest is all the way from Vancouver, Canada. His name is Mark Groves and his area of expertise is Human Connection.

As an author and speaker, Mark is in love with uncovering the mysteries of what makes great relationships work. Speaking of that, he’s certain there are no “secrets” when it comes to great relationships. Rather, he believes that all relationships are by design and we are all the architects of what we want.

Mark has a Certificate in Applied Positive Psychology and has written for Plenty of Fish, Thought Catalog, Goodmen Project and is the Relationship Columnist for 24 Hours Newspaper.

I invited Mark on to the podcast today to help me answer a listeners question she had about dating someone relatively new who struggles with erectile dysfunction.

You’ll also hear us discuss:

• How to navigate the challenging sex conversations (and examples of what to say)
• What we all need to understand about male sexuality
• What the most powerful antidote to shame is
• The purpose of a first date and what questions to ask (and which ones to avoid)
• Why we settle for less than our deepest desires
• How to honour your personal standards without making others feel like they aren’t good enough for you, and so much more.

Enjoy!

Michaela Boehm is a globally renowned Intimacy & Sexuality Expert, and author of THE WILD WOMAN’S WAY: unlock your full potential for pleasure, power and fulfillment.

This is her second appearance on the show, and today we're diving into all things dating. 

In this episode, you'll learn:

• The pitfalls of dating someone’s potential
• How to gain clarity on the type of relationship you want and ensure you’re ready for it
• Why we experience shame when it comes to our heart’s deepest desires
• Why your approach to calling in a lover/partner isn’t working and what you need to do instead
• The ways women unconsciously compete with their men and ultimately destroy a great relationship
• The importance of exercising your romance muscles {especially the single mamas and boss women}
• What it means to be a “wild woman” in the realm of relationships and dating,
• And so much more.

Enjoy!

Ken Page is a licensed clinical social worker, renowned psychotherapist, and bestselling author of Deeper Dating: How to drop the games of seduction and discover the power of intimacy (this is my number one dating book recommendation!!)

In this episode you’ll learn:

• why your longing for love is not a weakness you need to overcome
• What it means to be codependent and why it isn’t such a bad thing after all
• The importance of identifying and owning your core gifts
• How to stop attracting unavailable people
• How to recognise the ways you flee love and how to interrupt those patterns, and
• The 3 stages of the “deeper dating” journey

Enjoy!

Have you ever dated a younger man? Or someone who already has children from a previous relationship? Are you a woman dreading the "do you want kids" question?

If so, then you are going to relate to the dating stories of today's guest, Acupuncturist & Holistic Coach, Keri Krieger. 

In this episode we discuss:

• Keri's personal dating experiences
• the importance of unpacking your own dating expectations, ideals and assumptions
• how Keri met her current partner and why it wasn't love at first sight
• how to retrain your nervous system for a healthier love
• letting go of needing the "lightning bolt" moment 
• celebrating the men right in front of you
• 3 essential practices to help cultivate a deeper love for yourself 
• how to navigate the "do you want children" question

Enjoy!

If you’re navigating the dating world as a newly divorced woman, or as a single mum, or as a woman whose sexuality is awakening then this episode is for you.

I speak with workshop leader, author, speaker and certified coach, Lisa Schrader about:

• Lisa’s dating journey post-divorce as a single mum
• Trusting the intelligence of your wild desires
• Liberating your sexual energy and discovering who you are as a sexual being
• How to practice being the feminine recipient
• Giving up on love  and trusting the seasons of your journey
• The importance of the sacred {inner} marriage
• Calling in a lover and more pleasure
• Lisa’s favourite feminine practice “Come to your senses”

Enjoy!

Today's episode is for those exploring open relationships and are wanting to date someone other than their primary partner. 

My personal experience navigating this arena is very limited (which I share more of in this episode) so I’ve invited a special guest, Ev’Yan Whitney.

Professionally speaking, Ev'Yan is a sexual doula and sex educator who works with women helping guide them into their own sexual awakenings and recover the lost connection with their desires. Personally speaking, she’s married to an incredible man of 12 years, with 8 of those years being non-monogamous.

In this episode we discuss:

• The evolution of Ev’Yan’s marriage
• How to make non-monogamy work for your relationship
• Red flags to be mindful of before choosing this path
• What dating other people as a married woman actually looks like
• 3 must-read resources for those considering this relationship structure
• And so much more!

Enjoy!

If you've been relying on sexual attraction and chemistry to guide your search for love then it's very possible you've unknowingly been overlooking the "right" kind of men. Tune in to find out if your attractions have in fact been leading you astray...and keeping you from creating the love life you deeply desire. 

Today I welcome back, John Wineland. He’s an LA-based men’s group facilitator, speaker and teacher helping guide both men and women in the realms of life purpose, relational communication, sexual intimacy and embodiment.

In this episode we discuss:

• The definition of a “conscious man” and where to find him
• How to know if you can trust a man
• A simple way to identify one’s core sexual essence
• What it looks like to evoke the best from a man
• How to intentionally sexually polarise your dating experiences
• How to artfully express the truth of your heart
• How to call your date into deeper presence
• How to recognise men who are dating just for fun or for something serious
• The right time to have sex for the first time with your date
• Online dating vs attracting men in real life
• How to cultivate a deeper range of your feminine expression
• How to hold a man accountable to a higher level of consciousness
• How to avoid looking over potentially great men.

Enjoy beauties!

This week I'm talking to Bee Bosnak. She’s a Yoga and Meditation Teacher living in New York City delivering classes, workshops and retreats worldwide. Bee has also been the cover girl for several Magazines including YOGA MAGAZINE, OM YOGA, and SWEAT EQUITY. 

I invited Bee to share her personal experience of dating after divorce.

Like many women I know, Bee struggled with the whole "online dating" concept {especially in NYC} but stuck it out and stayed true to her desires before meeting her current partner of 3.5 years, which by the way, started off on the wrong foot due to her interrogating questions.  

Bee and I also discuss:

• The importance of self-worth
• How offering your gifts to the world and being of service is an act of self-love
• A simple strategy for dealing with conflict
• Vulnerability and the courage to reveal your heart
• Prioritising play and so much more.

Enjoy!

James Sexton is trial lawyer from NYC with two decades of experience negotiating and litigating high-conflict divorces. He's also the best selling author of “If you’re in my office, it’s already too late: a divorce lawyer’s guide to staying together”.

Whilst this book is written for those already in a committed relationship or marriage, I believe it’s a brilliant book to read before you even think about being in a committed relationship or marriage.

Reverse engineering a relationship can help identify and fix what doesn’t work, and that’s exactly the kind of insight and wisdom that James can offer us all thanks to many years he’s spent working on the front lines of divorce.

In this episode James and I talk about:

• Why relationships fail AND how to avoid these pitfalls
• The freedom of reinventing yourself after divorce
• The need for deep connection and the importance of compatibility
• What you need to know before looking for love or committing to a relationship
• Why what’s fun when you’re dating could be a pain in the ass when you’re married
• What women can do to bring out the best in their man, and
• How to have the hard conversations.

Enjoy!

Today I'm answering the most frequently asked question that I received from you all and that is, "How do you date with more soul?".

Joining me for this epic conversation is one of my closest friends, Soul Guide & Mentor, Carly Stephan.

In this episode you'll learn: 

• How to date with more soul
• How to move beyond codependency and the “you complete me” model of relationships
• The difference between “looking” for love and “waiting” for love
• How to recognise the “right” guy and make sense of the “wrong” guy
• How to identify and transcend karmic attractions and relationships
• Ineffective first date questions to avoid and why
• How to fully embrace “singledom”

In this episode, I speak with 9 times Karate World Champion, NLP Trainer and Higher Performance Coach, Hayley Carr.

Her dating stories will inspire you to throw your typical type out the window, create a brand new criteria for “swiping right”, make “time pressured” deals with the Universe and start living the life you’ve always wanted, right now.

Hayley will also inspire you to open your heart one more time, and always one more time, even when you don’t think you can trust your own judgment about love anymore.

Enjoy!

Welcome back to SEASON 5 where "dating" is the central focus in every episode. I'll be kicking things off with:

• my own personal dating journey to date
• the question you need to answer before you start dating, and
• a list of my favourite datings books

Enjoy!

Tune in to find out when Season 5 begins and where you'll find me in the meantime. See you soon!