Today I’m joined by Justice Schanfarber, a certified Hakomi Therapist and couples counsellor specialising in sex and relationships. He’s the author of two books, and several articles - some which have been published by The Huffington Post and The Good Men Project - and read by over ten million people in two hundred countries, and has been translated into six languages.

In this interview we are discussing his book CONSCIOUS KINK FOR COUPLES: the beginners guide to using kinky sex and BDSM for pleasure, growth, intimacy, and healing.

You’ll learn:

• What inspired Justice wrote this book
• What Justice means by “conscious kinky couples”
• The importance of examining our sex lives and relationships
• How to use kink for shadow integration
• 3 lessons we can all learn from conscious kinky couples
• Ritual sex vs spontaneous sex vs maintenance sex
• 3 important things to consider when exploring S&M or D&S dynamics
• What Erotic humiliation entails
• how to navigate the psychological challenges of stepping into a D&S relationship
• How to tolerate the tension of having multiple, and sometimes contradictory, self-identities, desires, callings and parts.
• Justice’s highly recommended Kink & BDSM resources
• The value of making distinctions between sex, intimacy and eroticism

Enjoy!

Last week you heard from award-winning somatic sexologist, best selling author and founder of the Erotic Blueprints Miss Jaiya. And today I have the honour of introducing you all to her partner of 11 years, Ian Ferguson.

Now Ian doesn’t consider himself a KINK expert (let alone a sex expert) but when it comes to expanding his sexuality and embracing his kink, he definitely has some stories to tell and wisdom to share.

In this episode, you’ll learn how he moved past the shame of his kinky desires and in doing so, transformed his sex life.

Plus:

• The importance of having a partner who doesn’t shame or reject your sexual needs
• Why men struggle to embrace their desires to submit and how to help them
• What “sub-space” is and the intense play scene that allowed Ian to experience it
• The differences between kinks and fetishes
• The most important role of a Dominant
• How to avoid erotic starvation
• What Ian is currently exploring
• And so much more!

Enjoy!

Welcome back to Season 6 of the LOVE SEX DESIRE podcast! 

Are you ready {or at least curious} to explore the world of Kink - a world full of possibilities, creativity, expansion, freedom, healing, pleasure, and deep deep intimacy?

I hope so because for the next two months that's exactly where I'll be taking you this season.

In this episode, I interview award-winning somatic sexologist and bestselling author Miss Jaiya about all things Kink. You'll learn:

- what defines something or someone as kinky

- what the sexual needs, superpowers, and shadows are for Kinky Types

- how to open the kink conversation with a partner using "the sex communication list"

- what to do if old trauma resurfaces during your kink explorations

- the importance of boundaries, consent, and safety

- how kink saved Jaiya's marriage and, surprisingly healed one of her deepest wounds

A list of resources mentioned in this episode can be found at susanafrioni.com

Enjoy!